Doug Hope

I know what it's like to sacrifice your own well-being to keep another person happy. To feel like you have to people-please your way through a relationship just to feel accepted. To be loved not for who you actually are, but for who someone else needs you to be.

I know how exhausting it is to live that way.

That experience is what brought me to this work, and it's what I bring to every conversation. I've spent 30 years doing the hard work of learning how to put myself first, set boundaries, and stop outsourcing my sense of worth to someone else. It didn't come naturally. It came slowly, honestly, and through a lot of the same confusion my clients arrive with.

I'm 74. I'm a man. I know that's not what you expected. But it means I can help you understand how your partner thinks in a way another woman might not be able to. And I'm not going to commiserate or tell you what you want to hear. I'm going to be straight with you.

I'm not here to help you analyze your partner. I'm here to help you put yourself first — because that's what actually makes a healthy relationship possible.